I doubt I need to explain it, but in the wake of the Santa Barbara killings by an avowed misogynist and terrorist1, the hashtag #YesAllWomen exploded on social media—partly in response to the often petulant defense offered by men when systemic misogyny is pointed out, “But not all men are like that.”
The #YesAllWomen hashtag quickly developed into an opportunity for many women to document what they have had to put up within our culture. Now, I’ve had my say on this topic more than once. Rather than share my own thoughts again, I’m going to link to some of the very many posts and Tweets I’ve seen over the last two days.
First, a quote from Margaret Atwood, who crystallizes the over-arching issue so well.
my dad told me as a teen that a woman with an abusive husband needs to simply pray that God will remove the sin from his life #YesAllWomen
— she was a showgirl (@seelolago) May 25, 2014
I shouldn’t have to hold my car keys in hand like a weapon & check over my shoulder every few seconds when I walk at night #YesAllWomen
— Sophia Bush (@SophiaBush) May 25, 2014
The cops who asked me “Well, what were you wearing?” when I reported an attack and attempted rape. #YesAllWomen
— Aimee Mann (@aimeemann) May 25, 2014
Because it shouldn’t take a hashtag to let women know that they’re more than the sum of their body parts. #YesAllWomen
— Dana Weiss (@Possessionista) May 25, 2014
Because I can watch guys come to blows over a football game but talking about sexism means *I* have anger issues. #YesAllWomen
— Amber Naslund (@AmberCadabra) May 25, 2014
Because even a 140 page misogynist manifesto by a mass murderer isn’t enough to convince some people that sexism kills #YesAllWomen
— Jessica Valenti (@JessicaValenti) May 25, 2014
#YesAllWomen because reporting sexual assault, harrassment or discrimination at home or work shouldn't cost you your job, housing, or kids.
— Theresa Petrey Law (@TPetreyLaw) May 25, 2014
— Victoria Dahl (@VictoriaDahl) May 25, 2014
(Side note, Victoria Dahl has written a number of powerful posts on her Tumblr account on the ongoing War Against Women. She’s been a critical part of my own education on feminism. Rather than link directly to the posts in question, I encourage you to scroll through all the lovely images she also posts.)
#YesAllWomen for all the microaggressions we are made to think we deserve and for the painful experiences we share.
— Kaye M. (@gildedspine) May 25, 2014
— alyssa. (@narrynicotine) May 25, 2014
Obviously there are thousands more. The #YesAllWomen hashtag is well worth your time. I do want to add one more tweet before I move on to other things I’ve read.
— Adam Rose (@RealAdamRose) May 25, 2014
And now some posts.
Being Young, Female, and Vulnerable by catagator.
To You Internet Misogynists by Yo, Is This Racist?
Feminists’ Inspiring Online Response To A Misogynist Mass Murderer by Rebecca Leber.
Not All Men, But Still Too Many Many Men by Chuck Wendig.
“Alpha Male” Elliot Rodgers’ Retribution by Courtney Caldwell.
What Elephant in What Room? by Ophelia Benson.
Post updated to add: Tweets concerning UCSB shooting, misogyny, and masculinity by Imran Siddiquee.
I’ve barely scratched the surface here with these tweets and links. I’ve not even scratched the surface of the surface. Spend some time with the hashtag. Follow the links. Keep reading, keep listening. It’s way past time to pay attention.
One last tweet, by my friend Barbara Ellingson:
I think the #YesAllWomen ht is the most beautiful & important thing I’ve seen in a long time.
— Barbara Ellingson (@MrsTomSauter) May 25, 2014
1 Yes, I said terrorist. My word choice was intentional. Had these very acts been committed by a non-white, non-conservative person the media would have been quick to brand it exactly what it is. CNN and Fox News may be anxious to shy away from the obvious, but I’m not. See the Laurie Penny story I link to above, and the quote below.